Musical Mondays! Those Shoes…..

Those Shoes –  Eagles

Tell us what you’re gonna do tonight, momma
There must be some place you can go
In the middle of the tall drinks and the drama
There must be someone you know
God knows you’re looking good enough,
But you’re so smooth, and the world’s so rough
You might have something to lose
Oh no, pretty momma,
What you gonna do in those shoes?

An homage to shoes – how perfect!  And not just any shoes  – THOSE SHOES!  Do you own a pair of “those shoes” or does someone you know own them?

The pair that mean business – or trouble! The pair that have that little something extra going on – they are so amazing you feel different wearing them?

Although I recently put black shoes on my “do not under any circumstances purchase” list due to the extreme number I already own, my ultimate pair of shoes still eludes me…one day the Christian Louboutin Black Rolando (hidden platform, size 37.5 to be exact)  and I will walk as one!!!  And then momma the drama will indeed begin!


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Choosing to Do Good Regardless of What Goes On In The World Around You



The Paradoxical Commandments – Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001



I originally came across the Anyway: The Paradoxical Commandments in preparing for a lesson plan for The Family Program, it had been attributed to Mother Teresa. Digging a bit deeper I found that it was authored by Kent M. Keith as part of a booklet for leadership, Mother Teresa had seen it and had it hanging on the wall in her office in Calcutta.

I think that this is such a great basis for us to use as we go through our daily lives, as we work toward integrity in all things. So often, because we are only human, we allow the actions or reactions of others to affect our behavior and decisions.  Once we start on that slippery slope of being many things to many people we lose our sense of self and most importantly we stray from being people of integrity.

As we go along our journey we need to constantly work to make sure we have a clear sense of right and wrong, a clear sense of respect for self and others, and  a clear sense of the message our words and actions convey. Not because we are trying to make a good impression, not because we want to get ahead or get a deal done, not because we want to be popular but because it is the right thing for us to do.

Once you start to lead a life based on your beliefs, principles and ideals it truly does become easier. When you are who you are at all times you are never trying to remember who you said what to, you never live in fear of being found out. Don’t make the mistake of thinking any of this will make you popular – the harder you try to live by your own set of ideals the more others will try to tear you down. Because they act with the intent of quid pro quo, they assume you do as well. Because they create situations to put themselves in a good light , they assume you do as well. Because they see you work hard to put your best self out there at all times they assume it is an act because the thought of working that hard to be your  best for the sheer reward of knowing you are your best is beyond them.

Despite any obstacles – be your best self anyway. Set goals and work hard to reach them, aspire for things that might be beyond your reach right now so that you have dreams to work toward. Your “doing it anyway” isn’t to impress others – it’s to allow you to put your head on the pillow at night knowing who you are, that you did your best and that indeed you do have a plan for tomorrow!


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Thoughtful Thursdays!

Today try to do one kind thing – hold a door, say excuse me, smile when you walk past someone. Reach out to someone, make a phone call, write a note.

Move beyond yourself, your concerns and needs, your problems. Move beyond your phone, computer, television, ipod and connect in a human way.

We are losing a sense of society, of community. The civilness in civilization is slipping away and unless we take steps to reach out and form community we will lose something so very valuable and necessary to us – a sense of belonging.

Do one kind thing today, reach out to those around you, know that there is no replacement for the warmth of humanness only we can provide to each other.

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Doing Good – Community Center of Northern Westchester

The Community Center of Northern Westchester provides food, clothing and services to those in need in the Northern Westchester area. The surrounding community, including the amazing families from the Family Program that I facilitate at St. Joseph’s Church, are very active in supporting the center – our neighbors. Support is offered through donations of food, clothing and funds and by volunteering time.

Their web site offers the following:

The Community Center of Northern Westchester is a warm and caring place dedicated to helping neighbors in need. With the support of 28 sponsoring organizations, and the generosity and volunteer power of residents from all over Northern Westchester, we offer food and clothing, as well as other programs designed to meet the needs of those living in the Northern Westchester community.

Please join in opening your hearts to help and support your neighbors in need.

For more information about what donations are needed and how you can be involved in supporting the Community Center of Northern Westchester their contact information is as follows: 

The center is located at :

 Community Center of Northern Westchester
84 Bedford Road
Katonah, New York 10536
Tel: 914-232-6572 Fax: 914-232-6574

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Doing Good – Laughing Man – All Be Happy!

Laughing Man coffee, tea, chocolate and fine merchandise is a company founded by Hugh Jackman, Barry Steingard and David Steingard. Their website states the following:

Laughing Man Worldwide makes a difference in two ways. By using our resources to find, incubate and support companies and products that believe in the ALL BE HAPPY vision, we can do our part to create jobs, support the entrepreneurial spirit and encourage the ingenuity that is essential to community health. Second, through the successful incubation of companies and products Laughing Man Worldwide gives 100% of the profits it receives from those ventures to charity.

Laughing Man Worldwide believes education is the essential foundation for ensuring a peaceful, healthy and prosperous worldwide community. We support innovative and effective educational initiatives both here and abroad. To begin with, we have partnered with Harlem Village Academies and Dr. Deborah Kenny.
We have visited these schools and consider them to be a premier example of what education can be and can do.

We are driven by the promise, to help, we made to our friend Dukale.

We look to the future with hope, excitement and the open question, who can Laughing Man Worldwide help next? We hope to become a company you trust, welcome into your homes and together make
“ALL BE HAPPY” a reality

Laughing Man products can be ordered through their web site: or by visiting their store located at 184 Duane Street in the Tribeca section of Manhattan.

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Fabulous Fridays! – Dressing for the Theatre

There are few places left where appropriate dressing follows strict guidelines. Dress codes at all but a few tony establishments have gone the way of fox stoles and men’s hats being de riguer. Religious services – with the exception of some where dress is part of the religious observance – have discontinued any dress code expectations that used to define “Sunday Best”. The work place took the road from casual Fridays to business casual and made a left at wear whatever you feel like. Schools have moved the line of having a dress code, for students and teachers alike, so far away from having a uniform that as long as you don’t reveal too much flesh you’re okay (unless it’s Halloween and then you can come as the “slutty version” of whatever you want to be).

Another hallowed ground has apparently reached the final frontier of dressing for the occasion – attending the theatre. Since I was very little attending Broadway was an event, an extravagance – an incredibly special occasion. This feeling has remained for me to this very day – which is probably why I am so very disappointed to see the seats around me filled with those who seemed not to know they were attending a Broadway show (or leaving the house, or not cleaning their garage),.

I thought I would try to be helpful and share some tips to hold on to the last great event to dress up for – attending the theatre!

Top Ten Tips For Dressing for the Theatre

10. – If any part of your ensemble fastens with Velcro you probably shouldn’t wear it to the theatre.

9.  – If your outfit shows your enthusiasm for any sports team, television show or band you  shouldn’t wear it to the theatre.

8. – If you felt under dressed and got the stink eye from other diners at Junior’s you shouldn’t wear that outfit to the theatre.

7. – Unless you are in the cast of Lysistrata Jones you shouldn’t wear sneakers to the theatre.

6. –  If you are over 21 you probably shouldn’t wear your “fan” tee shirt to the theatre (or out of the house, but that is another post topic!).

5. –  If your outfit can take you directly from the matinee to your league bowling night, you probably shouldn’t wear it to the theatre.

4. – If your slip dress looks a heck of a lot more like a slip than a dress, perhaps you should add another layer before you arrive at the theatre.

3. –  If you are wearing jeans that are not dark rinse, trouser length with dress shoes and appropriate accessories they don’t belong at the theatre (if they are elastic waist, ripped, rinsed or decorated they don’t belong anywhere).

2. –  If you are wearing a hat, remove it when you enter the theatre. It doesn’t matter if you are cold, if it’s part of your outfit, if you didn’t bother to comb your hair or if you are Lady Gaga – hats are removed at the theatre. (your hair style should also not obstruct other theatre goer’s views either horizontally or vertically).

1. –  If your personal fragrance invades the air space within five feet of you – do not wear fragrance to the theatre.

I hope you find these basic tips helpful!  If you have some you would like to add I would love to read them!


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Thoughtful Thursdays!

I have been trying to meditate since August, well actually for a few years but my most recent attempt started in August. I bought a book about meditation, a cd to guide me into meditation and I downloaded the cd so it is on my iphone.

So far that is the progress I have made toward meditating.

Why is this so hard for me to do, to start, to attempt? The thought of being peaceful, quiet and restful for a short period of time each day sounds so ideal to me.  I want to know that I have that time of centering each day.  Yet, along with my regular gym visit that is well intentioned but not accomplished, I make no headway in accomplishing this as a routine.

I think part of the mindset that needs to be corrected is that this isn’t selfish time, but necessary time. Rather than an indulgence it is a basic tool to add to the quality of my day and life. I also think I need to schedule these times as I would a business meeting or an appointment – if it’s on the calendar it’s a commitment. I know this to be true – yet no progress has been made.

For today I will be kind to myself and rephrase my intention – I aspire to meditate.  I will let you know when that aspiration becomes reality!

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